pun intended .. a friend of mine was in a bit of a pickle .. we will call him John .. after 30 years of being blissfully wed to his wife Kate he was developing feeling for another woman he worked with named Edith .. he still loved kate but Edith fulfilled something extra that was missing in his marriage and he was finding it difficult to keep both loves in his life .. he asked me for my opinion on the matter .. i firmly said .. " john " ,, You cant have your Kate and Edith Too " ...... i can feel the groans already ...