Thread: Marriage and Hot Rods

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Richard monique and I have known eachother for 24 years, and been married for 14. Sometimes I don't know what I would do without her. She is very supportive of me, but as I'm sure all of the folks here in a relationship will agree, marraige is work and trying at times! Cars make for a good outlet for some quiet one on one time with the garage, wrenches and music on the radio. I think mutual respect is the key, I can only congradulate you both on your long and happy wedded life. It seems more people today go into mairrage with little or no thought and are equally ready to terminate it with little or no work. Sometimes it just doesn't work, and everyone is better off apart. It's a hard thing balancing women and cars/toys!

28 years married here. My wife is very tolerant of all those old cars that follow me home. But she would be happier if the darn things actually ran reliably.

We have never been into buying new cars off the showroom floor & we like recycling so I just remind her that hot roddings recycling, and that other folk can hear their new cars depreciating at night.

And giving her my FiatTopolino project helped a fair bit. Didnt help my "fuel altered on the street" project at all tho. But she loves her little car.

Well,I guess I am another lucky one..My wife of 11 years,owned her 55 Customline for seven or eight years before she met me,,she still has it...sitting in the shed half rebuilt...,but when money is tight,ya cant do much...but gotta get it done,cos she wants the 60 Galaxie thats crouching in the corner....

Congratulations Richard on you 41 years of adventures. I am on wife number three. All together total up to 25 years in all. my wife now of 10 year we are totally different but we are best friends also. she does not always see the car stuff the way I do but she does support me going to car shows. she will gladly go with me IF there is a good place to eat near by. that is here only requirement. she thinks lot of my stuff is junk and I should sell it but I tell her it will last longer than the money will. I figure she will enjoy selling it all when I die. The only one she like is the 1934 truck not the other collections in the garage or pole barn. I still have my first car a 1965 mustang with a 351w I have had sense I was 15. I have had it longer than any wife or girl friend is what she tell everyone.
I give all a two thumbs up to all your long term relationships

I've been married to Dawn for 28 years. She and I are true partners but I will admit that like everything in life - there is a balancing act. Going overboard in any direction is not a good thing. She is fantastic about the cars. In fact the 1936 Chevy Street Rod I'm currently building is hers. She bought the car on her own and is calling the shots about how it is getting fabricated. Several of my tools were purchased by her as she sees what I do as interesting to her. She has on more than one occasion helped me in the garage. The last time being just yesturday when I needed to replace the anti-sway bar in her daily driver. She is not afraid of getting dirty when I ask for help. She has always been by my side in every purchase too.

There are times when I need to put the toys away for a bit to spend quality time with her too on things that directly interest her. Like I said... balance.

Lastly, I feel very dedicated to her. I almost lost her 14 years ago to cancer. My LIFE got put on hold that year besides what she went through. I focused just on her and the family. Nothing more. We got throught everything together.

I say this as a friend of ours informed us that after 32 years of marraige they are getting a divource. They say that they were not as attentive to their marriage the last couple of years. It's a tough thing to hear and one that is preventable. I won't let that happen to me.... Balance.

jerome

Thanks Steve, Congratulations to you and Monique 14 years is a long time and to have known each other for 24 makes it very satisfying to see how mush alike you become. Time goes by so fast and with that time you really know the person to the point you can finish each other’s sentences. I think one of many keys to a long and happy married life is respecting each other like you mentioned and communication if you can hold a conversation with the person that’s a big positve. My wife is the Greatest like Ralph Kramden would say about Alice on the Honeymooners T.V. show.


Hot Rod Todd, It’s nice seeing people that have been married for along time on this site. I was just the opposite, when I was young I was always buying new cars plus the old ones.
Today the new ones lose their value so fast so I’m like you. We try to keep our the daily drivers going that are ten years old and older my El Camino is an 86 I try to keep it going.
We still have one of the cars we bought new 1988 Monte SS the inside is like new, the outside had a both sides painted from rock chips, blended in clear coated, buffed then new stripes put on.

Lamin8r, I would say you’re a lucky man also. What car guy wouldn’t love to have a wife coming to the marriage with a 55 Custiomline. Time plus money always seem to put something’s we enjoy on hold for a while. My 39 Ford Coupe has been sitting for as long
as we have been married, I drove it before we got married but it got pushed aside but I’m not giving up on it.



greenford34, Thanks your total is pretty impressive also, it’s hard to believe but my wife and I are complete opposites also but we do manage to get along great. I respect the things that she likes and she respects the things that I like and we meet in the middle.
My wife has found several cars that I ended up buying and she will go for parts when I’m not able to go without complaints. My wife has cleaned my garage more times then I can count. I am not a neat person in the garage when I’m finish with a job things lay where they were left.



Jerome, That sums up the topic of this thread just perfectly that marriage and Hot Rods can go together.

My hat is off to you for saying such nice things about your wife and I’m sorry to hear she had to deal with the terrible disease of cancer. You have been her strength the way you have talked about putting her first and that’s the way it should be. I use the balance term often myself you have to have it or things get out of sight.
That’s too bad about the couple getting a divorce after all of those years but we all know of people that have done that.

Thanks; it’s nice to see marriage and Hot Rods can go together
Richard

Originally Posted by Dave Severson

Well, a guy's got to have his prioities and all 3 of my ex's will tell you what mine are and have always been!!!!....

#2 was the most amazing! When I met here I was racing sprints, had two Harley's and a jet boat...then 6 months after being married I was supposed to give them all up and sit on the couch watching the idiot box....??????

Some guys just aren't cut out for married life, me included. I understand Hot Rods a whole lot better then I understand wives and as I get a bit older and a bit more cantankerous I like it that way!!!!

Ex #3 is my current girlfriend, has been for a bunch of years... We get along great----since about 6 months after the divorce was final. Great lady and excels in the health profession. We both have the utmost respect for the other's talents and would never consider asking the other to give up their life's passion!!!! She doesn't expect me to go shopping with her, and I don't expect her to do any block sanding!!!

Dave, I think you are a lucky man; you have your cake and Hot Rods. Your priorities paved the way to your happiness.

Number 2 went where no other woman has ventured and the couch didn’t have any gauges to watch oil, temp, fuel, volts, etc.

Dave, wives are treated different then Hot Rods, you don’t take them out and floor them every time you feel the need for speed.

Number 3 understands your passion and she can give you CPR when you get so excited about your latest build. I bet if you were running close and need a hand she would be there for you with a DA in one had sanding block in the other.

That’s just the way Great women are. You’re a lucky man.

Richard

Originally Posted by Bruce lee

Happily married is a oxy moron,---- it is like saying Happily dead.

What a nice post perhaps you didn’t read Don's post about silent members not posting. I believe my original post in reply to your post was edited but yours was left up.

I don’t understand your posting a word that can be taken as contrary to my post and adding something as cruel kindness or foolish wisdom. What was your point?

Did you think happily married and happily dead was funny?

Richard

my wife was always jealous of my cars .. she`s been gone 21 years .. i still have my cars

My wife of 30 years and I share a saying. Marriage is a state of mind, just don't ask me what state I'm in! Yes, it's a balancing act and you just gotta keep laughin' at whatever life throws at ya'.

Hoss429, I’m hoping you and your wife just didn’t see things eye to eye and she is still out there somewhere. Marriage just doesn’t work for everyone. There was a 50% ratio in my family of divorce. That’s just about the national average.

34 40, Good for you and your wife I believe there has to be a balance and they say laughter keeps you young. You have a good outlook and I hope you can have another 30 plus years. My sister in-law parent’s just celebrated their 60th so keep doing what your doing.

Richard