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Heck,our summer is rapidly coming upon us down under here and I haven't been out in the workshop for several weeks and I'm getting hassles from my friend to have the bucket back on the road. I have one door done and the drivers side half done then I want to make up a new seat lower in the car so lots to do yet. My excuse is Mum is at the stage with her dementia where if she is alone for too long, she breaks down crying believing she has been deserted. For example,the other day I was hanging washing out on the line and got talking to the neighbour across the fence and when I returned inside here was mum in tears all upset so I am learning now to not be away too long. The car will just have to wait until she gets past this stage.

Originally Posted by Whiplash23T

Heck,our summer is rapidly coming upon us down under here and I haven't been out in the workshop for several weeks and I'm getting hassles from my friend to have the bucket back on the road. I have one door done and the drivers side half done then I want to make up a new seat lower in the car so lots to do yet. My excuse is Mum is at the stage with her dementia where if she is alone for too long, she breaks down crying believing she has been deserted. For example,the other day I was hanging washing out on the line and got talking to the neighbour across the fence and when I returned inside here was mum in tears all upset so I am learning now to not be away too long. The car will just have to wait until she gets past this stage.

Not good,Whip..I think,maybe,you need to have a quiet word with your sister,,to come and spread the load,just a little bit,so you can do a bit of your own thing occasionally.. I seem to remember you saying that she wasn't too far away from home..I think it's time for her to step up to the plate,and give you some assistance..(Sorry for butting in,mate)

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Originally Posted by lamin8r

Not good,Whip..I think,maybe,you need to have a quiet word with your sister,,to come and spread the load,just a little bit,so you can do a bit of your own thing occasionally.. I seem to remember you saying that she wasn't too far away from home..I think it's time for her to step up to the plate,and give you some assistance..(Sorry for butting in,mate)

Whip,
Robin's being a true friend here, and I hope that you listen and allow him to get in the mix a bit. Too often the primary caregiver refuses to admit that things are progressing beyond their ability to respond 24/7, often until something happens to shock them into reality. Dementia is an ugly monster that loosen's it's grip occasionally, but only for short bursts, when the patient responds "normally" making us think, "It's not so bad. See, she's really OK.", but then the monster yanks them back into the fog. Sure, the car is not nearly as important as Mum, but you not having a minute to yourself other than the brief times Mum's sleeping can ruin your life. Having lived with the dementia monster in my parents lives, I'd say Robin is the strong clear voice of reason here. I hope things can get better for you in ways that give you some comfort. I'm saddened by your note, and hope things turn for you soon.

Originally Posted by rspears

Whip,
Robin's being a true friend here, and I hope that you listen and allow him to get in the mix a bit. Too often the primary caregiver refuses to admit that things are progressing beyond their ability to respond 24/7, often until something happens to shock them into reality. Dementia is an ugly monster that loosen's it's grip occasionally, but only for short bursts, when the patient responds "normally" making us think, "It's not so bad. See, she's really OK.", but then the monster yanks them back into the fog. Sure, the car is not nearly as important as Mum, but you not having a minute to yourself other than the brief times Mum's sleeping can ruin your life. Having lived with the dementia monster in my parents lives, I'd say Robin is the strong clear voice of reason here. I hope things can get better for you in ways that give you some comfort. I'm saddened by your note, and hope things turn for you soon.

i had to deal with that with my mom.
it was terrible.
she couldnt be left alone period.
it was just too dangerous. (leaving stoves on ,iron pots in microwaves etc.)
we finally got her in a home.
and at fisrt she HATED it.
now she doesnt want to come to our homes for a visit.
i dunno what that means either.

First, allow me to apologize to you Dave for taking your thread off topic. Thanks guys for your input, very much appreciated. Billy don't get too upset with your Mum not wanting to go out and visit. I have attended a month long course for care givers of Dementia/ Alzheimers patients and that is one thing that they taught, the patient will get to the stage where they fell secure in their familiar surroundings so don't like going anywhere. I have a battle to get Mum up to her Doctor when she needs to go. I managed to attend the support group meeting last Friday for an hour and half which is always enjoyable break talking with others in the same situation. I continue to have my two Bible studies here at home on Monday and Thursday with an elder from Church which helps me stay in a good mental space.
Cheers Everybody,
Mark, Whip.