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Happy to see things are turning around, Bobby. My prayers are with you and her for continued progress.

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Wow Bobby, I just read this thread, and I am so sorry for you, your family, and your Daughter. From what I understand, women who allow this to go on suffer from some self esteem issues. They somehow feel they deserve the treatment they get.

I worked with a terrific girl who was in an abusive situation. She would come to work with black eyes, broken ribs, etc, and always had some excuse, like she fell while getting off a boat..............we knew better. One day the Manager and I sat her down and told her she didn't have to live like that, she was a great person and deserved better. Her excuse was " well, I make him mad sometimes, so it is as much my fault as his."

We both looked at each other in amazement, because it had gone right over her head. My friend said to me after the meeting, "you could line up 100 guys on a field, and she would gravitate to the one loser in the bunch and ignore the 99 nice guys."

Bobby, there are groups that address spouse abuse. I would suggest you FORCE her to go, because if he is that violent you have no way of knowing what his next act toward her might be. If you have to Baker Act her, or some other means, just do it.

Don

Don thank you Glad your home safe after driving all that way with those goodies on the trailer .

She kinda volunteered to get counsling I'm hoping this is sinking in now and she her self is relizing the outcome . She is a very smart girl but this only boyfriend she ever had love i think has her confused at the moment . He was more of the controlling type but this battery was extreme and really came fast to us all . I agree plenty of great people out there .

As with many problems, the first step is admitting that there is one... Still praying her recovery will be complete physically, mentally, and emotionally....


(and hoping his prison sentence will be long and miserable).......Oh well, I still have some healing to do, too.......

If anyone gets a prayer.....it would be you and all of those with similar trouble. My thing is....I've lost complete faith in society and structured religion. I still believe God will sort everything out in time. I've just seen too many things to give anything positive. On one hand....as a dad...I might feel inclined to just let go...and tell her she is on her own....maybe then she will ditch the guy. On the other hand....she might be more inclined to go back to him thinking its her only way out. Its a catch 22 for sure. My heart itself goes out to you, your family, and your daughter. I am sorry this ever happened to you and yours. Just one little piece of advice....I'm sure your beating yourself up over this....please remember.....you only play a minor role in her raising.....the rest is dictated by her surroundings....society as a whole....(our legal system, our childrens teachers in schools, what is on the tele, all of the things that society seems to take as acceptable). I guess what I am saying is dont be too hard on yourself and just be there for her. Thank goodness she is okay....if a person can concider that she is.

If he is truely bi-polar....your problems may not be over. Please keep a watchful eye. A little scenario: I too was living a life that I see now...was not desirable. I was raised as a normal young man....grew up with good role models....went to church....fell in love. And instantly felt the wieght of the world on my shoulders to provide for my family after being wed. It seems...it was just too dang much at times. I didnt physically harm my ex-wife....but the two of us together threatened each other mentally like soo many others. After being married 16 years....she left....and let me tell you....I freaked out!!!! Turns out....I am bi-polar...obsessive compulsive... with attention deficite. My parents beat themselves up wondering..."what happened to the quiet, friendly young man that you were soo many years ago". Well....I just dont know. In my own defense.....my wife never...I repeat...never left me with the feeling that she could be trusted. I believe the marriage was over before it ever started. I could say I wish I never met her....but then I wouldnt have two wonderful boys. Guess what I am saying is....please do what you can to convince her that she doesnt need the guy. There are soo many guys out there for her. Let her read this if you wish. If there is a next time....it might be the last. This is as emotional as I can get. I'm emotionally drained now. On another note: I am married again....to a wonderful woman...of whom I love very much...and know that she loves me. I wish the best for all of you!

Dave

Bobby- I just read this and it is a perfect example that prayer does work. My daughter is a social worker at an abused womens shelter in KC. I know that isn't handy for you but I'm certain that they would be happy to send you and/or your daughter some helpful information on your situation. Just PM or E-Mail me and I will set it up. Hang in there and we will all continue to pray for your family.

.....God Bless you & your family Bobby. I'm praying for you guys..... I know a girl who just the other day got beaten up by her boy friend & the NEXT day she was back with him!!! Bill

She is refusing to press charges . She said his mother is buying a ticket to send him to california to live with sister .


Well we couldn't throw her out like we said with tough love . I will say her spoiled life is over completely though . All she will get from us is what she needs to survive nothing more like her previous life has been .

I really thank everyone for there thoughts it has helped me so much .

You and yours have my best wishes in recovering and hopefully it works out this beast gets what's coming to him. It's a shame the authorities can be so impotent... for even the most reasonable person it is hard not to consider taking matters into one's own hands... if it were me I don't know I could keep from landing myself behind bars. Hang in there and try not to let it consume you... your daughter may come around to the right course of action.

-Chris

Thanks skid

Cant wait to see pinks might get that glimpse

I know this is tough for you and her. I hope she changes her mind or he will likely hurt some else in the future. His parents may think this solves the problem, but what he did was wrong and he will do it again. In a few months he may decide to come back, and it may all start up again. Unfortunately sending him away solves nothing. Your in our prayers.

Stove he only has a mother never knew his father . thats the part im worried about what will keep him away . I know i am now looking at a weapon for the house thought i would never need one but i am getting older and am only good for the first few minutes you know .




Well tonight was rough we had found pawn tickets in her purse a few days ago and we retrieved her High School ring and a few more we bought her . She was screaming at us to get out the stuff her boyfriend bought her and we refused . I bought her a new car 2 weeks ago and told her she would have to make the payments to build her credit she is on the loan . So there is no money left after her 20 hour a week check pays for car , insurance and fuel . I allways fill in what is needed so no jewelery will be got out . Hot temper she has she told us not to talk to her LOL. A 21 year old being 10 i love it i am stronger willed .

bluestang, You, your daughter & your family are in our prayers. Your story sounds very familiar, we went through the same thing a few years ago. Fortunately after many late nights of talking she saw the light, dumped the guy and is now happily married to a guy that treats her like a princess.
I pray your story turns our as well as ours did. I know things looked very dark for us for a long time, and turned out O.K. Keep the faith and keep communications open at all cost. Sounds like you are doing things right. Keep doing what you can and put the rest in God's hands.