you have my prayers and sympathy. As a child that watched my mother get beat just as badly I can testify that you never get over it. I watched my father once stomp my mom to the point that he caused to miscarry. I was beaten severly but never where some one walking past me would notice. It does not get any better until you get away from someone like that. I asked my mom years later why she put up with it. She said that at the time she acutally thought that she deserved it. That he was always sorry later and would make it better. She later discovered that she was clinicly depressed and needed treatment. I would get your daughter if you can to talk to someone. I know that you love her dearly but she has to feel that she is deserving of true love to stand up for herself and tell the cops the truth. I am now in a fantastic relationship with my husband of 15 years. He never has once raised his hand to me no matter how much I have angered him. But he also knows that if he ever hit me he better run. Your daughter deserves so much better. My email is jyardgirl@hotmail.com if she ever wants to talk to someone.